By: Chinyanta Nkonde
The people we date and choose as marriage partners are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously, we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs.
I believe in the principle that our partners are like mirrors. They are the ones who watch us closely, know us much better than others.
They show you your flaws and strengths, which your friends may not have the courage to tell you, or may not even know. Then there are the shared dreams and aspirations. This besides that love they provide. But let me stick to the mirror part.
The reason many people mention their spouses as their strength and support is because they act as a mirror and tell you your strengths and remind you of your aspirations when you’re low. And for many, they are the reason for all the struggle and handwork, for living itself. So when you’re alone, you’ve to hold that mirror by yourself, constantly reminding yourself of your strengths, your dreams.
“Relationship stand as a mirror, Every moment the other reveals you, exposes you. The closer the relationship, the clearer the mirror is.”
There are many factors that come into play in a relationship. The dynamics are different for every person, so it is difficult to say the reason for breakups is clear. It is a combination of factors.
Relationships make you see things in yourself that you might not see if you stay single.
A contributing factor whether a relationship will be healthy or unhealthy depends on where each partner finds happiness and fulfillment.
Many people seek this in external objects or people. I’m sure you’ve heard people proclaim: “I’ll be happy if he did this or she said that” or “If I only got that job, new house, baby.”
If a person seeks a partner to complete them, conflicts arise.
In order for a relationship to be healthy, each person should be at a place where they have dealt with issues such as: low self-esteem, jealousy, resentments, and inner pain.
The fact that your partner is your mirror is not a bad thing; it’s quite the opposite. It’s an aid in knowing yourselves better and opening your eyes to a reality that we tend to deny.
The mirror is like any other mirror, it should be an opportunity to see each other clearly and make a decision. Some mirrors are very revealing, such as in this painful scenario of these that many people experience every day.
Change the way you deal with people or circumstances that make you believe you’re the victim, When in reality they’re helping you.
I strongly believe the person who you choose to be in a relationship with is a reflection of who you are. You will never receive better until you realize you have to first become better yourself. You have to realize what problems you have within, commit to fixing those issues and then become a better person.
time is something that once it’s gone you can never get it back so you should only spend your time with the people who deserve it the most. Don’t allow yourself to be with someone who drains all your energy and never try to refill you with happiness. Love should always be elevated and the person who stands alongside you as your partner should always want to represent you well.
Sometimes we can’t prevent who we fall in love with but we can definitely prevent who we stay in love with. Being with someone who doesn’t elevate you as a person is definitely a waste of time. Like I’ve always said…love hard but also make sure you love smart.
