By Mwaule, Anthony
A lot of people mistake conjugal rights to rape. Studies indicate that forced sex in marriage is a frequent type of sexual assault perhaps the most frequent, although the victims do not define forced sex in marriage as rape.
Rape is defined as from Merriam Webster as unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person’s will or with a person who is under a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception.
Rape was long considered to be caused by unbridled sexual desire, but it is now understood as a pathological assertion of power over a victim that has been subsumed under that of sexual assault. However conjugal rights are from Merriam Webster are the sexual rights or privileges implied by and involved in the marriage relationship: the right of sexual intercourse between spouses from. Therefore forced sex is not conjugal right.
The reason women and even men tend to not be sexually aroused at times is because they might not just be interested or tired and stressed from work. Or they might be going through terrifying circumstances that need attention hence low interest in sex that could be damaging to the other partner. Some could even be still practicing masturbation that may cause them not to be easily sexual aroused. And in which case they need a medical therapist. Not wanting enough sex is the big problem for most women. Women’s desire levels are generally lower to start with.
On the other token, men usually think more about sex, fantasize more about it, work harder to get it, place more importance on it, initiate it more often, and masturbate more and would love to get at any time they wish to which might lead to rape. But there are better ways to overcome such situations other than rape that should be taken under consideration to respect each other desires.
Communicate your feeling to each other to avoid wrong interpretations of what might be going on in each other’s lives. Its advisable to be straight especially with your partner so that you can be well treated in a better desiring way to avoid risks of being forced into sex especially when one partner is turned on and the other not.
Learn to control your emotions at all times especially when it’s tempting to request for sex. Men are ever ready at all times to have sex, but this should be controlled or be put in check.
Talk to someone trusted or see a therapist to help you out if forcing your partner into sex with becoming from strong. There could be some serious issues that you need to settle that you have not dealt with in the past that could be affecting you present life. They could be dating other people behind your back and have no sexual feelings for you anymore. This might trigger rape in marriage. Seek to know what is affecting your partner.
